The “TREAT” Reads Blog Hop! Day 3

(NOTE: For the next few days ForeignCorrespondent will be hosting the second annual RRBC “TREAT’ Reads Blog Hop. #RRBC #RRBCTreatReads) 

“Greetings!  Welcome to the 2nd RRBC “TREAT” Reads Blog Hop!  These members of RRBC have penned and published some really great reads and we’d like to honor and showcase their talent.  Oddly, all of the listed Winners are RWISA members!  Way to go RWISA!

We ask that you pick up a copy of the title listed, and after reading it, leave a review.  There will be other books on tour for the next few days, so please visit the “HOP’S” main page to follow along.

Also, for every comment that you leave along this tour, including on the “HOP’S” main page, your name will be entered into a drawing for a gift card to be awarded at the end of the tour!”

                                                                                                                Author, Gwen Plano


Book Blurb: Inspiring and unforgettable, Letting Go into Perfect Love is a riveting account of a journey through the terror of domestic violence to a faith that transforms all. As a college administrator, Gwendolyn M. Plano lived her professional life in a highly visible and accountable space–but as a wife and mother, behind closed doors, she and her family experienced unpredictable threat. The statistics are staggering–every 9 seconds in the United States, a woman is assaulted or beaten–but to Gwen, this was her secret; it was her shame. When her husband eventually turned his brutality on her son, she knew she could no longer remain silent.

 Alternately heart-wrenching and joyful, this is a story of triumph over adversity–one woman’s uplifting account of learning how to forgive the unforgiveable, recover her sense of self, bring healing into her family, and honor the journey home. Accompanied by glimpses of celestial beings, Gwen charts a path through sorrow to joy–and ultimately, writes of the one perfect love we all seek

Twitter: @gmplano

My Review of “Letting Go into Perfect Love”

A memoir bursting with critical life lessons

It’s not easy to look back on one’s life and relive the pain associated with years of physical and psychological abuse. The process can be wrenching and heart-rending. But it can also be extremely cathartic and liberating.

That’s the takeaway I have after reading Gwen Plano’s extraordinarily candid memoir, “Letting Go into Perfect Love: Discovering the Extraordinary after Abuse.” I did not suffer from abuse, so when I hear or read the stories of people who have, I have to put my own reality on hold.

This is an honest and unsettling story of a woman’s difficult journey through two ill-fated marriages—the second one, a 25-year-long ordeal of abuse. At a couple of points in the book I wanted to shout at Gwen—“Get out, dump this guy, save yourself!” But as with many women who live with abusive men, Gwen was either afraid to do anything or deceived herself into thinking that the abuse she was suffering was somehow her fault.

This is a common emotion among many abused women—and it’s one that I, as a man, simply cannot fathom. After reading this book I was left with the dispiriting conclusion that for many women it takes more courage to remain in an abusive relationship than it does to leave it. I know I could not have endured a quarter-century of cruelty and violence.

At one point in the book, Gwen says: “We are creatures of habit, and often, unless we are roused by heartaches, we proceed routinely and sometimes blindly, doing the best we can.”

Finally, when the abuse began to be directed at her three sons and daughter, Gwen’s fierce maternal instincts kicked in and she summoned up the resolve to leave her abusive husband. From that point on, she was a woman in search of the inner peace that the first half of her life had eluded her.

“When it is time, we walk the corridors of our heart, retrieving the shattered threads of once-believed dreams,” Gwen writes. “Perhaps, long after tears have dried and hope has faded, we find what was always there but not seen—and then our desolation gives rise to a new spring.”

She goes on to say: “I am left with only one conclusion: all of life has meaning, and through our tragedies and disappointments, as well as our joys, we are lovingly guided to more profound realizations of that meaning.”

Gwen Plano is correct in her assessment. It is nevertheless disturbing that for so many women who suffer as she did, the journey to enlightenment is such a long and agonizing one.


(Just type #RRBCTreatReads in your Twitter search box.)

Tuesday, 9/18/18: “THE IMPROBABLE JOURNEYS OF BILLY BATTLES” by Ronald Yates

Wednesday, 9/19/18:  “IN THE SHADOW OF LIES” by Mary Adler

Thursday, 9/20/18:  “LETTING GO INTO PERFECT LOVE” by Gwen Plano

Friday, 9/21/18:  “SON OF MY FATHER” by Peggy Hattendorf

Saturday, 9/22/18:  “EXCLUSIVE PEDIGREE” by Robert Fear

Sunday, 9/23/18:  “ONE DYKE COZY” by Rhani D’Chae

Monday, 9/24/18:  “OUTSHINE” by Karen Ingalls

Tuesday, 9/25/18:  “TURPITUDE” by Bernard Foong

Wednesday, 9/26/18:  “DOG BONE SOUP”  by Bette A. Stevens

Thursday, 9/27/18:  “HIEROGLYPH” by Wendy Scott

Friday, 9/28/18:  “THE WAY TO HER HEART” by Amy Reece

Saturday, 9/29/18:  “ELEMENTS” by Nia Markos

Sunday, 9/30/18:  “DESTINY’S PLAN” by Victoria Saccenti